How To Find Your Way Back To Christ

I can remember a day when my kids were young. I
was in my car singing praises to the Lord as I drove home from an
incredible time of Bible study with women in my church. I recall
praying, “Lord, for all of my days, please keep me here – in this place
of passion for You.”

Did I stay “right there” for the rest of my
life? Well – no. I wish I could say that I did. But as life’s busy-ness
and pressures began to take priority over my time, the fire burning in
my soul soon faltered.

Because I allowed “the cares of this
life” to become a priority, I abandoned the time I spent in prayer,
worship, and in learning of God’s character through the study of God’s
Word, and fellowship with other women who were also committed to grow
their faith.

I ached to find my way back to that place I had once
been, but I needed help to know how. Titus 2:4 instructs the older
woman to teach the younger, so I sought out older women whose walk with
Christ I wanted to emulate.

I am confident the insights I gleaned
from these passionate Christ followers are what God used to help me
find my way back to an intimate walk with Him. So what did I learn? I’m
so glad you asked. In the church, there is a temptation to “pretend” we
have it all together, I think that lack of vulnerability is one area
where we fail one another in the Christian community, so I applaud your
courage to seek help.

Steps to Take 
These steps transform my intimacy with Christ whenever I start to wander – which happens more often than I’d like to admit!

1. Get alone with God to search your heart and confess your sin to Him. 

Pray Psalm 139:23-24: “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and
know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me
in the way everlasting.”

Unconfessed sin is the number one
hindrance to a believer’s intimacy with Christ, so always begin with
honest reflection on your own heart. Recently, my daughter shared with
my Sunday School class that she writes out all the sins that God reveals
to her so she can be intentionally in repenting and turning from her
sin.

If you are married, know that harboring resentment against
your husband for not measuring up to your expectations is a real threat
to your intimacy with Christ.For marriage help you can read my book: If
My Husband Would Change I’d Be Happy & Other Myths Wives Believe.

2. Begin reading through all the Bible stories from Genesis onward. 

You may be quite familiar with the stories, but as you read, don’t
necessarily look for what Abraham, Moses, David, etc. did. Rather, ask
God to show you what He did. As the Spirit reveals itself to you in each
story, write in the margin of your Bible “God’s Character-God’s Ways.”
As you study, ask God to grow your love for Him as you learn his
character.

This process will help you learn to recognize God’s
ways in your own life and help you trust Him. It will also help you know
His character and cause your heart to love Him more and more as you
discover God for who He really is – and not who you may perceive Him to
be.

3. Write out Psalm 119 in a journal. 

Write one stanza each morning and pray it back to the Lord. Think about
the stanza throughout the day and pray back to God the portions you
remember. Before bed, read the stanza again as a prayer to the Lord. The
next day, do the same with the next stanza. Do this daily until you’re
through all of Psalm 119 (it’s a very long chapter).

When you’ve
finished, you can always begin writing and praying through Psalm 119
again. Each time I go through this process, it causes my love for God to
swell. (In fact, I am so in love with Psalm 119, with God’s help I am
now memorizing the whole chapter!)

Work through a study on the Names of God. My favorite is: Lord I Want to Know You by Kay Arthur.

4. Learning the Names that God gave Himself
throughout the Bible will help you know Him more intimately, trust Him
more, and fall in love with who He really is – rather than who you may
perceive Him to be.

5. Read biographies about people who lived in total abandon to Christ. 

I can’t even tell you how inspiring it is to read biographies. And not
only will you learn from the example of some amazing Christ followers,
you will learn to see your own life through an eternal perspective.

Seeing
the impact of others for the cause of Christ will help you remember we
all get one moment on this planet to live the purpose for which God
created us: To know Christ and to make Christ known.

6. Ask God for help. 

In John 14:13, Jesus promises: “Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.”

7. Don’t give up.